On the internet lately all I ever see is sadness and negativity. Personally, I find it upsetting. Life is a beautiful thing, but most people don’t make the most of it. Everyone is busy making other people happy. Everyone is busy caring too much about what other people think. Everyone is busy worrying about others, before worrying about themselves.
I think people need to put themselves first. If you make yourself happy, the world becomes a better place. So I’ve compiled a few things that make me happier. Maybe not instantly, but over time they do help.
The first step to making yourself happy, I think, is to identify one thing you are grateful for each day. Write it down in a journal or diary, or even in a blog post. Once you start practicing gratitude, you will appreciate what you have, over yearning for what you don’t. I don’t do this every day, but I am going to start.
Next, I think, is to accept what happens and to not fret the little things. I know this phrase is overused and you can find it in every coming of age movie/book, but everything happens for a reason. One lost opportunity opens yourself up to a plethora of other more meaningful ones. To keep worrying about one things restricts you, forget about it and open your eyes to see what comes next.
Don’t lie to yourself or others. Lying to yourself should be a crime. Well, not exactly but why would you? You are the one person you can be truly honest with. You are the one person you can (or should) not be able to fool. By lying to yourself, you are not being yourself. Lying to others is the same. People always say be yourself, and I believe that the first step to doing this is by not lying.
Ask for advice and listen to it. People say that you cannot see the mistakes in your own work. It is sometimes the same with your problems. The best advice often comes from a person who knows you well enough to see what you can’t, because you don’t want to.
Don’t spread yourself too thin. Prioritise. Figure out what is really important to you, what you do for the sake of it, and what you do solely for others. If it doesn’t add value to you personally or make you happy in one way or another, why do it? Love yourself first.
Surround yourself with positive people. Negative people will bring you down. Who needs a negative Nessy? Not you, that’s for sure.
Finally, I think one of the most important things is to have alone time. There is nothing like being alone with your thoughts. It doesn’t mean you are lonely, you just appreciate a good mind. It gives you time to think things through, and you get to do what you want to do (best thing ever). Read a book, watch a movie, write, draw, paint or just sit. Doing something for yourself and by yourself is rewarding.
I surely don’t do all of these things all the time. I am 17, I get most of my advice from Google. I think however, that these are all things you and I should do at some point because. They. Do. Help. The number one piece of advice I can give you though is, love yourself first. If you do this, you will be happier. Love yourself then others are bound to love you as well.
Got any advice for me? Let me know below.